Alright boys, listen up! I know that every eligible man out there is curious about how to win my heart. OK, that was a major exaggeration. However if anyone IS curious about how to win my heart, I’m about to make it a lot easier for you.
Make an effort to really get to know me. I think it’s surprisingly easy for people to spend a lot of time with each other without actually getting to know each other at all. It’s exciting for awhile, someone new to pub hop and explore town with. But I usually find that I usually get put off after awhile if I feel like I’m putting in more effort to get to know someone than they are to get to know me. What are your dreams? What do you absolutely love doing? What do you hate? What are your best qualities? What are your worst qualities? I want to know what makes you, you. I want to know it all! And I want you to know me like that too.
Be spontaneous. A friend from D.C. once described me as a ‘yes’ girl, because she knew that she could message me asking if I wanted to go to California, or anywhere really, and I’d say yes without hesitation. Flying to California is a little extreme (even though I’ve done it); it could be something as small as jumping on the tube and picking a random stop to get off at outside the city, making an impromptu road trip, or deciding last minute to see a show. Please don’t get me wrong, I like to have plans and things to look forward to just as much as the next person. But there’s something about being spontaneous and just down for anything; it’s a big plus. I think that the best days are fuelled by spontaneity, when you don’t really have any expectations and you’re just winging it.
Spend quality time with me. If you’re distracted or on your phone the entire time, it doesn’t count. This doesn’t mean that we need to be sitting on the couch across from each other having the world’s deepest conversations. Anything we can do together is enough; let’s play board games, exercise together, go to a coffee shop and curl up with a hot chocolate and read our books. The point is that these things are done together.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Being driven is important, having dreams is important, but being able to make a fool of yourself is equally as important to me. If you can’t laugh along with me when I start dancing like a lunatic to a random song, or better yet join me, then it just won’t work. You have to be able to laugh at yourself. You have to be able to deal with me making weird faces at you. You have want to join me in doing the most cringe-worthy synchronised dance moves at the pub and not care about how ridiculous we look. Let’s both be silly as hell and still love each other anyway.
Have similar dreams to me. I think it’s very important for people to have their own dreams that are completely individual to them. However, it’s also important that your life dreams are similar to mine. I may still not know what I want to be when I grow up, but I do know that I want to live in a house filled with travel souvenirs and walls covered with photos of adventures, family, and family. I want to come home to a person I love and live somewhere that makes me feel alive. I want to get married someday and have kids that are more thoughtful, more brave, and more successful (with whatever they want to do) than I could ever dream of. I want to live my life so well that when my loved ones describe me to people after I’m gone, those people say ‘I would have loved to meet her.’ Those are my dreams, and I need someone whose dreams compliment mine.